Twitter users are giving Kylie Jenner the side eye after she complained about her shocking results from using the viral TikTok aging filter.
“I don’t like it, I don’t like it at all,” the reality star said in a clip posted Monday on the video platform, as she watched in awe, shaking her head in disapproval after the filter applied wrinkles, sagging skin and under-eye bags to her now-25-year-old face. “No. No.”
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The TikTok aging filter, which shows a split screen of the user’s current face and an aged AI-generated image of the user with wrinkles and thinning hair, has been making the rounds across the app, appearing on videos that amassed more than 10 billion views.
After Jenner appeared startled by her results, fans began pointing out to the beauty mogul that she can afford any procedures to change her appearance if she’s unhappy with it.
“You can afford to fix it so you’ll be ok,” one user commented on the star’s post.
One user wrote, “Don’t worry you have money,” to which another person added, “That’s so true.”
Other TikTok users accused the reality star of previously undergoing cosmetic procedures.
“You have fixed it before, you can do it again!!!” one person said.
Some fans stepped into the comments section to defend “The Kardashians” star, complimenting her looks.
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“You still look good, don’t be scared to age,” one wrote.
Another dished out encouraging words, writing, “Babe u look good both ways.”
The Kylie Cosmetics founder later switched up her vibes about the photo in the comments, writing: “Jk i love her she’s cute lol 🏻”
Back in 2019, Jenner openly discussed getting fillers, but shut down rumors about plastic surgery, calling them “completely false.”
“They don’t understand what good hair and makeup and, like, fillers, can really do,” she told Paper Magazine.
The beauty influencer recently said in an interview with Hommegirls that seeing her natural features on her kids’ faces has made her more comfortable in her own skin.
“[Motherhood has] made me love myself more. I see my features in my daughter and my son now, but you know, my daughter looks like me. I get to see my beauty in her, and it’s made me love myself more for sure,” the mom of two said.
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Jenner shares her 5-year-old daughter, Stormi, and 1-year-old son, Aire Webster, with rapper ex Travis Scott.
The beauty entrepreneur also opened up about getting lip fillers, adding that she’s never regretted getting them.
“I think a big misconception about me is that I’ve had so much surgery on my face and that I was some insecure person, and I really wasn’t!” she said. “Yeah, I love full lips and wanted full lips, but growing up I was always the most confident person in the room.”
Crepes may be delectable, but crepey skin? Not so much.
The term describes skin that, like crepe paper, appears thin and crinkled and typically lacks the elasticity, thickness and firmness of youthful skin.
“Crepey skin is primarily an aesthetic concern but it can also be indicative of potential health issues,” board-certified dermatologist Dr. Shoshana Marmon told HuffPost. “Since it usually develops as a result of substantial sun damage, individuals with crepey skin may be at increased risk for the development of skin cancer. Additionally, since crepey skin is thinner and less elastic, it may be more susceptible to bruising and tearing, which could lead to infection if not properly cared for.”
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Plenty of creams and lotions claim to alleviate the appearance of crepey skin, and anyone who wants to take care of it quickly can seek doctor-administered treatments. We spoke with experts who weighed in on what works best and whether there’s anything you can do to prevent crepey skin from forming in the first place.
Why and when crepey skin forms.
As Marmon hinted, crepey skin primarily results from sun exposure. “A frequent misunderstanding is that crepey skin develops solely from aging, but lifestyle factors like sun exposure and smoking are significant contributors,” she said. “While everyone is susceptible to crepey skin, people with lighter skin tones, who are more prone to sun damage, are particularly at risk.”
Sun exposure causes the skin to lose volumedue to dehydration. “It doesn’t store water the same because the integrity of the skin is damaged,” board-certified dermatologist Dr. Shani Francis told HuffPost. That leads to degradation of collagen and elastin, the proteins that hold water and therefore help the skin keep its structure.
Any ultraviolet exposure, even from tanning beds, can lead to the formation of crepey skin. “It’s really not the sun itself — it’s ultraviolet radiation,” Francis explained. “Any type of ultraviolet radiation exposure is going to damage and degrade the collagen and the elastin tissues.”
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Genetics play a factor, too. “If you look at your parents, if they have crepey skin, you know you need to start the process of preventing a little bit earlier,” Francis said.
According to Marmon, many women begin to notice crepey skin around the time they hit menopause because the drop in estrogen during that time speeds up the decrease in collagen and elastin, resulting in a thinning of the skin with a loss of moisture and fat.
“It starts around middle age and gets worse as we age,” Francis reiterated. “The elastic fibers, they start off very strong. Twenty-something-, 30-something-year-olds, their skin snaps right back. Once you get to 40, it doesn’t quite work that way.”
Board-certified dermatologist Dr. Noëlle S. Sherber told HuffPost that crepey skin from UV damage usually shows up around the eyes, the chest and the backs of the hands. Some people also see it above the knees and on the inner arms.
What you can do to prevent crepey skin.
Wearing sunscreen may seem like the obvious way to ward off crepey skin, but Francis said another method may be more effective.
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“You can’t see light through your clothes — that’s better,” she said, “Sunglasses, a hat, those things are always better than sunscreen because they’re on and in place. Sunscreen doesn’t last. It’s not permanent. Sun protection instead of sunscreen is much more comprehensive. I always tell people, think of sunscreen as your last line of defense.”
For the areas that clothing and accessories can’t cover, apply sunscreen. The American Academy of Dermatologyrecommends a water-resistant one that offers broad-spectrum protection with SPF 30 or higher.
Some over-the-counter options to try for crepey skin.
Marmon wants to temper expectations of seeing results from over-the-counter treatments claiming to eliminate the appearance of crepey skin. “While creams, moisturizers, lotions and especially sunscreen are helpful in maintaining skin health, eliminating all signs of aging is pretty much impossible,” she said.
However, with regular use, topical products with ingredients such as retinoids, alpha hydroxy acids, peptides, growth factors, hyaluronic acid and antioxidants can help to stimulate collagen production, therefore improving skin quality.
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“These products generally take several months before you see their potential benefit,” Sherber warned, adding that a high price tag doesn’t equate to a higher likelihood for results. “A misconception is that only high-end skin care products can combat crepey skin, when in fact, consistent use is far more important than the price tag.”
You want to make sure the moisturizer you pick also contains water to rehydrate the skin. “Water is the number one hydrator,” Francis said. “A big mistake people make is coating skin with oil when they’re already dehydrated because all that’s going to do is improve the barrier.”
Francis particularly loves products with niacinamide, a form of vitamin B3, as a way to help alleviate the appearance of crepey skin. It can also be taken as a supplement.
Sherber offered an easy way to test whether a moisturizer is thick enough to properly hydrate: “When you open the jar and flip it upside down, if it doesn’t drip, then it should be a good barrier support product.”
Doctor-administered treatments to address crepey skin.
On May 15, the Food and Drug Administration approved the first skin booster, Skinvive by Juvederm, to improve skin smoothness in adults over 21. The booster is an injectable hyaluronic acid with a serum texture that has been used for years overseas, where they refer to it as Volite. “Unlike fillers, which volumize, skin boosters replenish skin’s deep hydration and can give fantastic results for skin quality improvement, especially in thin-skinned areas that are prone to crepey texture,” Sherber explained.
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Other injectables, like Radiesse and Sculptra, stimulate the body to synthesize collagen. Options such as radio frequency skin tightening and fractional non-ablative lasers stimulate the body’s natural healing process, leading to the production of new collagen and elastin that promotes thicker and more elastic skin. “Both can significantly improve skin quality,” Sherber said.
For certain anatomical areas, such as around the eyes, she suggested neuromodulators like Botox for reducing crinkling.
Still, “while we can somewhat improve the appearance of crepey skin, the aging process is ongoing and inevitable,” Marmon said. “It is important to have realistic expectations in terms of what to expect from anti-aging products regardless of what they claim to do. Aging is a natural part of life and much better than the alternative.”
Jennifer Aniston, who became famous in her 20s, just revealed the one phrase she hates hearing.
The 54-year-old “Friends” alum, who regaled British Vogue this week with her workout regimen and lifestyle routine, shared she detests when people say, “You look good for your age,” because she currently feels younger, happier and healthier than ever.
“It drives me bananas,” she told the outlet about the phrase. “That’s a habit of society that we have these markers like, ‘Well, you’re at that stage, so for your age…’ I don’t even understand what it means. I’m in better shape than I was in my twenties.”
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“I feel better in my mind, body and spirit,” Aniston continued. “It’s all 100% better.”
Aniston famously made her name with “Friends,” which spanned 10 seasons and chronicled the lives of six 20-somethings living in New York City. Aniston got hooked on endorphins after a back injury and decided to forge ahead.
“I had to retrain my brain,” she told British Vogue, adding she sought out a functional fitness company named Pvolve. “It used to be pounding, pounding, pounding. You had to get 45 minutes to an hour of cardio; otherwise, you weren’t getting a workout.”
Aniston continued, “Not only do you stress your body, you burn out — who wants to do that at all?”
Aniston, who deems CrossFit “too aggressive,” recently told InStyle her physical therapist gave her a Barbie doll covered in Kinesio tape — a bandage used for athletes with injured or overused muscles — “to show every injury I’ve had in the last 15 years.”
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While frustrated about the expectation to “feel the burn” every time she exercises, she said one of her friends “completely transformed her body” during the pandemic — and that her visible energy inspired Aniston to seek out Pvolve’s low-impact program in 2021.
She said “old-school ’90s hip-hop” and more contemporary acts help her in the gym.
“Doing your own workout by yourself, meh,” Aniston told InStyle. “If you get some good music going, you can have fun, but I like to be guided. It’s too easy for me to do things less correctly than I should. I’m really into Lizzo right now, I love Rihanna, of course.”
While Aniston used to believe “45 minutes of cardio” per day was essential if she wanted to “get a good workout,” she said it “broke” her body. She added her new approach has been much more effective — despite her least favorite phrase being bandied about.
Kim Cattrall isn’t saying no to going under the knife ― anymore.
The “Sex and the City” star used to say she would never undergo plastic surgery, but recently confessed she now has a different view.
“I probably said that in my forties! I’m in my sixties now and I’m all about battling aging in every way I can,” she said in an interview with the U.K.’s Sunday Times published over the weekend. “There are so many other alternatives now, treatments that stimulate your own body to fight aging.”
“There are fillers, Botox, there’s so many different things that you can investigate and try and see if it’s for you,” she continued. “But yes, if you have the money and, more importantly, the right surgeon. It can’t be emphasized enough. You want to look like you.”
Cattrall said she wants to look like “the best version of myself” because she plays “a certain kind of woman who looks a certain kind of way. And professionally I am looking after myself.”
“Whatever I can do,” she added. “Because thankfully I have funds to do so.”
The “How I Met Your Father” star told the Daily Mail in 2011 that she looked up to actors who shunned radical measures to try to keep their appearances young.
“I look at people like Judi Dench, who’s in her 70s, and I think, ‘What the hell am I frightened of?’” she told the outlet at the time. “In my life and career I want to embrace aging because I think that’s what’s interesting.”
“I think a forehead without any lines doesn’t tell me they’ve lived a life,” Cattrall said then.
Aging brings a bunch of changes to your body, both physically and mentally. To keep up with those changes, your medical needs shift as you get older.
“Our immune system changes as we get older, and it starts … sooner than you would think, sort of in our 50s is when it starts … and then it peaks by the age of 80,” said Dr. Ardeshir Hashmi, section chief of the center for geriatric medicine at Cleveland Clinic.
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Within that three-decade period, our body is impacted by immunosenescence, which is the worsening of our immune response, Hashmi noted. So, as we age, we become more susceptible to infections, he said. This means it’s important to be protected against viruses that can be avoided. One way to do that is through vaccination.
Which shots do you need if you fall in this category? Below, experts share what vaccines you should consider getting if you’re over the age of 50.
The Shingles Vaccine
“The first vaccine that comes to mind when people reach age 50 is the vaccine against shingles,” said Dr. Julie Thai, a geriatrician at the senior care clinic at Stanford University.
Shingrix is a two-dose vaccine that protects against shingles and is the new, more effective formulation of the vaccine, according to Thai. The old vaccine, Zostavax, is no longer available or recommended in the U.S. If you’ve only had the Zostavax shingles vaccine, you should get the new shot, according to the Centers for Disease Control.
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Thai said most of her patients have had the vaccine, but for those who don’t remember if they’ve been vaccinated (or if they’ve had the old formulation), she tells them to get the Shingrix shot.
“That’s really important because shingles is painful and it’s one of those infections that just has these long-term effects,” Thai explained. “People have this neuropathic pain that can last for years … if they don’t get treated early enough in the disease course.”
Hashmi added that while both people who are vaccinated and unvaccinated can get the rash, it’s only the unvaccinated folks who would have this ongoing neuropathic, burning pain.
The Pneumococcal Vaccine
The pneumococcal vaccine is important for people 65 and older, Thai said. “It will protect them against severe cases of pneumonia.”
Additionally, the vaccine is recommended for younger people who are at high risk for severe pneumonia because of chronic illnesses like diabetes, Thai added. So, you can check with your doctor if you’re under 65 but concerned about your pneumonia risk because of preexisting conditions.
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A Tdap Vaccine
“The one that really comes to mind to me is tetanus, so the tetanus-diphtheria booster … if you look at data, it’s really actually people who are over 50 ― especially women ― who have low immunity to tetanus and diphtheria,” said Dr. Trish Perl, a professor in the department of internal medicine who specializes in infectious diseases at UT Southwestern Medical Center.
To account for this, you can get the Tdap vaccine, which also targets pertussis, she said. “That is especially important for people who are going to be around young children — like grandparents — because pertussis is a big problem in younger children, but it’s actually adults who … are the ones who will be transmitting pertussis,” Perl stated.
For the Tdap shot, “everyone requires a booster every 10 years. And this one, I feel people don’t take that seriously,” Thai said.
The COVID-19 Vaccine
The COVID-19 vaccine is the newest necessary vaccine for folks, according to Hashmi.
Older people have a higher chance of getting very sick from COVID-19 if they’re unvaccinated, resulting in severe outcomes like hospitalization or death, according to the CDC. And if you are older and have underlying conditions, like heart disease or diabetes, you’re even more at risk.
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People who are 50 and up are eligible to get the updated bivalent vaccine and can get boosted if it’s been at least four months since their last shot, according to the CDC.
The Flu Shot
The flu shot is important for everyone, not just for folks over 50. In fact, the CDC says everyone 6 months and up should get this shot each season.
“I always advise people to get vaccinated against seasonal flu because it really can put you out … especially now coupled with COVID,” Thai said. “I think people sometimes are dismissive of it, but it is really important that at any age to get the influenza vaccine.”
Hashmi added that the illnesses that have a lot of inflammation involved — like the flu, COVID, shingles and pneumonia — are worse in older patients.
“Because if you get the illness, the response to it is not robust because our natural immunity has gone down,” Hashmi said. “So, unless you supplement that with these vaccines, not only will the diseases happen … they will happen with much more severity than if you were, let’s say, a young adult or someone between age 20 and age 50.”
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The Hepatitis B Vaccine
“If you have certain risk factors, some of our seniors also merit the Hepatitis B vaccine,” Hashmi said. Those risk factors include intravenous drug use at any point and people who are incarcerated.
The vaccine is also available to people with certain health conditions. “Hepatitis B is important. It’s usually people who are immunocompromised … or who are older than 60 is usually when we start recommending it,” Thai noted.
If you are an avid international traveler, you may need additional vaccinations.
“I do think a lot of people at this age group also travel and so that may be another twist,” Perl said.
According to Perl, your vaccine needs will differ depending on what countries you visit. She recommends the Hepatitis A vaccine for people who travel, particularly if you eat street food and aren’t checking whether something is cooked all the way through, “because you can get pretty sick from Hepatitis A and especially you don’t want to get sick if you’re traveling.”
For other kinds of travel, recommended vaccines may include the meningococcal vaccine, polio vaccine, rabies and yellow fever, she said. To figure out what vaccines you may need for upcoming trips, talk to your primary care doctor. Your physician should be able to vaccinate you or refer you to a travel medicine center.
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Talk to your doctor about what vaccines are right for you.
Vaccine needs vary from person to person — and some people may require more information before going through with the jab. Talk to your doctor about what vaccines you need to stay protected well past your middle-age years.
“I think it’s important for every patient to sit with their doctors and ask questions and, you know, make an informed decision based on what answers they get,” Thai said.
She added that your physician can help explain the science behind some of these vaccines, address your concerns and help debunk any myths.
“Most of these vaccines have been around for years and years and years and are well studied, or the technology behind them is well studied,” Perl noted. “They’re actually much safer than getting these underlying diseases.”
And if you are vaccinated but still end up getting sick, you’ll be better off.
“It’s not like you are never going to get these illnesses. You could still get them. However, you will get a much milder version of any of these illnesses,” Hashmi explained.
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These vaccines can help you live a fuller life, too. “People are living longer, they’re living better [and] the quality of life is also improved if you’ve stayed up to date with these vaccines,” Hashmi said.
It seems that everything shifts as you age. You may notice you get wrinkles, your hair turns gray and even your height changes — in other words, you shrink.
“Aging is not a random thing that happens, it’s very predictable, it happens to us all. And rather than just luck and some bad things that might happen to you, there is a whole biology that has been evolving in identifying why all these changes happen to our body,” said Dr. Douglas Kiel, a professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School and the director of the Musculoskeletal Research Center and senior scientist at Marcus Institute for Aging Research in Massachusetts.
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Losing some height is one of those changes. But how much you shrink once you hit mid-life depends on a few factors (the exact amount that you might shrink isn’t 100% agreed on).
Kiel said shrinking less than an inch is normal and any more than that may be indicative of underlying issues (more on that below). Dr. James Harrop, the chief of the division of spine and peripheral nerve surgery at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia, added that men lose about .02% of their height per year while women lose .1% per year on average.
While the amount may vary depending on the person, shrinking overall is usually normal. Below, experts explain why it happens and when you may need to be concerned.
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Your muscles become weaker, which makes it harder to hold your spine upright.
“So, one reason that height might be reduced is that you are curved forward,” Kiel said, explaining that people tend to hunch as they get older. “If you stretched yourself out, your height might not be as much reduced, but since you can’t stand up totally straight … you measure a lower height.”
This curvature is referred to as kyphosis, he said. Every one of us has some variation of this in our spine, “but with aging, it’s often observed that the kyphosis, that slight curvature, becomes more pronounced.”
Muscles are required to keep your spine straight, and usually you lose those muscles as you have more birthdays. “You lose muscle fibers with aging, so the ability to extend your spine and look straight and tall are not as good as they were when you were younger. And so that kyphosis is more pronounced, and therefore your height is reduced,” Kiel said.
Bone loss is another contributing factor to shrinkage.
Part of what makes up our height are vertebral bodies, which are part of the vertebrae that make up our spine. “If you are losing bone as you age, sometimes the vertebral bodies … actually are crushed,” Kiel noted. This means they get less tall, making us less tall, too.
And sometimes these vertebral bodies actually break. “It’s called a vertebral fracture, and a vertebral fracture reduces the height of the vertebral bodies,” Kiel added. “You have a lot of vertebral bodies in your body going from the lower part to the middle, all the way up to your skull, and if one or more of those vertebral bodies loses its height — even though it’s only one small part of the spine — you can lose height,” Kiel said.
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You may be completely unaware if you do have these fractures, Harrop said. Two-thirds of people with vertebral fractures do not feel any pain. You may also just think you pulled something in your back, according to both experts.
People with osteoporosis, which is a loss of bone, tend to have more vertebral fractures, Kiel noted.
Harrop said that when he sees someone with osteoporosis and a spine problem come into his office, he gets nervous because if you have a fracture and “you don’t get treated, you have a 30% chance of having another fracture within one year.” And more and more fractures cause angulation in the spine, resulting in shrinking, Harrop noted.
The discs in your spine lose height as well.
You’ve likely heard of a slipped disc (or maybe you’ve even had one). Those discs, which are known as intervertebral discs, are another piece of the shrinking puzzle.
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“A disc is really a shock absorber or a pillow between two bones,” said Dr. Raz Winiarsky, an orthopedic surgeon at Brooklyn Premier Orthopedics. “And, essentially, when over time, starting in middle-age or actually starting a little earlier, like in your 40s, the amount of water in the disc … dissipates or dries out.”
This drying out shrinks the discs and leads to less disc height, which can impact your height. According to Harrop, by the time you’re 60 or 70, your disc can go from about 10 to 13 millimeters in height to 1 to 2 millimeters due to disc degeneration.
“Now, you do that with your 23 discs, and you can obviously see that’s a significant loss of height,” Harrop said.
So, is there a way to stop this from happening?
“If I could give one public service announcement, [it’s that] everyone … should get their bone density checked and they should be treated if they have osteoporosis,” Harrop stressed.
A bone density test won’t totally stop you from shrinking but will alert you of any problems that could exacerbate it.
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“When people reach age 65, Medicare pays for a bone density test, which is a way of quantifying how much bone you still have left and … some of the machines can have the patient roll on his or her side and get a side view of vertebral bodies to see if there are any of those compression fractures,” Kiel added.
You may be eligible to get a bone density test before 65; for example, Kiel said that many women are encouraged to do so during menopause. Additionally, Harrop said if you have a spine problem like scoliosis, it’s that much more important to get your bone density checked. Talk to your primary care physician to see if you qualify.
What’s more, a healthy lifestyle can help slow down any shrinkage as well. “If you really want to not lose bulk and try to … actually maintain your bone density, the best thing in the world is to exercise,” Winiarsky said. “It’s never too late to start, but the best thing is to have a life of healthy exercise where you do it a half an hour a day.”
This will help you maintain the strength of your bones and the strength of the muscles that help you hold your spine up.
“Shrinking is not a disease, but it … could be an indicator that some things are changing in your body that potentially could be slowed down,” Kiel said. “You have muscle, you have discs, you have bones, and they’re all contributing to shrinking, and if you shrink a lot it could mean more losses are occurring in those three contributors.”
When I look at photos of myself from 20 to 30 years ago, I realize that I had no idea how good I looked. I never thought twice about wearing short skirts and dresses when I was in my 20s, 30s and even 40s. I’m now in my early 50s.
Recently, I tried on some of the things in my closet and deemed them “too short” — not something a younger me would have ever done. That got me thinking: How short is too short when you’re a half-century old or more? Is it different than when I was 22? Should it be different? How else have my style and fashion choices changed as I’ve aged?
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I became intrigued by the answers to these questions — if there were answers, and if those answers even mattered — as well as the thoughts, worries and fears that other women my age have about their fashion and style choices. So I spoke to as many of my peers as I could, and also got insight from a psychologist. The stories and conversations we had were illuminating, validating and wonderfully insightful.
The Inner Workings Of My Friends’ Brains
I’ve known Natalie Flores, age 49, for about 25 years. We worked together when we were in our 30s and became close friends. Those were the days of short skirts, tank tops and cowboy boots in Austin, Texas. Bare legs and arms were our norm. Though I have since moved to a place much less swampy, Nat still lives that state. Some of her fashion choices have changed, though.
“I no longer wear shorts because of the way my inner thigh curves, although I have no problem with a short skirt because it hides that inner thigh curve,” she told me. She also said she no longer wears cap sleeves because they “point” to a soft and pale inner arm that she’d rather hide (from both her own reflection and the public).
“It’s a hard-won freedom to disregard how one is perceived by others. And I, for one, am so grateful to all who were pioneers in carving the road to openly expressing oneself unapologetically.”
– Stephanie Ruksyio, a woman in her 50s
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Joan, a 69-year-old cyclist and retired lawyer who requested to keep her surname private, told me that since she passed the 50-year milestone, she no longer wears miniskirts.
“I stopped because I just didn’t feel like showing off that much anymore — didn’t feel the need to advertise, as it were.” she said. “As I got older, no skirts whatsoever. Didn’t like stuff flapping around my legs. Besides, if I dropped something or had to climb over something, I didn’t want the hassle of a skirt. Both of those things happened in my 40s and 50s.”
Stephanie Ruksyio, a 50-something French woman I met a couple of decades ago in a bistro, had an effortless, sexy style that I myself was never very good at. When we talked, she told me that her style has definitely changed, and that she feels as if she is still undergoing changes, both fashion and otherwise. This, I think, is a state we should all aspire to: perpetually growing and becoming. I mean, are we ever really done?
“The wonderful thing is now I don’t have any pressure or drive to impress,” Stephanie said. “My fashion and style decisions have gradually become … comfortable yet funky, but above all true to myself, instead of hypothetically pleasing the times and/or people. I feel and love my age in the sense that I dress completely in tune with my needs and wants, regardless of exterior inputs.”
Some of the women I talked to lamented that their skin has begun to sag. Joan told me that despite her good muscle tone and the fact that she is in great shape, the packaging is sagging.
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“Unfortunately,” she said, “gravity has been around as long as I have. That one breaks my heart.”
Jeannie Barbato, a 70-year-old woman who is also active and fit, said something similar: “I am more aware of showing skin — wrinkly neck and arms, legs that are increasingly scarred and mottled. But, not infrequently, I do it anyway.”
A Psychologist Weighs In
“If a lot of your self-esteem is based on your appearance, you’re going to have more anxiety as you get older because your appearance changes. And I think this is especially true for women,” Ann Kearney-Cooke, a licensed psychologist and wellness coach in Ohio, told me.
“You need to define yourself by the choices you make each day, not what’s happened in the past or how culture’s perceiving you,” she said. These include deciding to be a better person or a better friend, to eat healthy, to move, to experience the arts.
“Focus on the choices you make to feel good about yourself and your body,” she added. “You get affected about a lot of things, like who your partner is, what fashion has meant in the past to you, how important people in your life dressed.”
At the end of the day though, the trick is just finding colors, fabrics and styles that look good on you, that you feel good in, that really express who you are now.
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“A gift to getting older, I think, is that we’re more clear about who we are,” Kearney-Cooke said.
The Freedom Of Caring Less About What You’re ‘Supposed’ To Wear
Thankfully, as I’ve gotten older, I care less about what other people think of the way I look. Not that sometimes I still don’t worry about how I’m perceived, but ultimately I am better about not giving those kinds of concerns much credence. One person responded to my miniskirt question by saying: “No worries. No fear. I wear what I want.”
And when it comes to the gaze of others, there’s a certain freedom to be found in acknowledging that not everyone is watching you. “I look at other women my age and think, nobody cares how we dress anyway, which also gives me a certain amount of carefreeness,” Jeannie said.
Natalie told me that she’d recently been feeling nostalgic for her college years look and questions whether she’s trying too hard to look young.
“I have been experimenting on adding elements of that look to my choices. And I definitely pause and wonder if it looks forced, if it makes me look like I’m trying to look younger or if I look out of touch with what someone my age is ‘supposed’ to wear,” she said.
Many of us spend a good deal of time worrying about how we look and whether we will appear attractive to others. And this, of course, is always tied up in how we choose to dress, as well as our relationships with our own bodies, Kearney-Cooke said.
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“We also have to teach people how to talk about our bodies,” she said. She told me a story about one of her clients who received a clean bill of health from her doctor. The woman was very pleased, but when she told her husband, he asked if the doctor had said anything about her “big butt.”
“And this is the best part,” Kearney-Cooke told me. “The woman replied, ‘No, he didn’t ask about you.’”
A big part of accepting aging is the maturity that comes along with it. As Stephanie put it: “It’s a hard-won freedom to disregard how one is perceived by others. And I, for one, am so grateful to all who were pioneers in carving the road to openly expressing oneself unapologetically.”
“When I was younger, I had no idea how good I looked,” Joan said. “No one does. But then you get older and you look at pictures of yourself when you were young, and you think: ‘Jeez, I really looked great. I wish I’d appreciated that more and stressed less.’”
It’s easy to fall into comfortable beauty routines and use the same cosmetics and application techniques year after year. But the face you have at 50 isn’t the same as the one you had even a few years ago, so what worked before may not be enhancing your best features.
“Most of us learned to apply makeup when we were in our early 20s, and all we wanted to do then was look older,” said Ariane Poole, a 66-year-old expert in makeup for women over 50 and the founder of Ariane Poole Cosmetics. “If you tell an 18-year-old she looks 25, she’ll be thrilled. But if you tell someone who’s 58 that she looks 65, she’ll be horrified. We don’t want to look good for our age, we want to look good whatever our age, so it’s important to adapt.”
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We talked to professional makeup artists ― all over 60 themselves ― about how they help other women let go of what’s no longer working and try new approaches to stay fresh and glowing. They pointed out some of the most common mistakes they see and offered smart techniques to avoid them.
“I firmly believe you can correct anything with makeup,” Poole said. “You don’t need to pile loads of product on your face, and you don’t need filler and Botox, either.”
When it comes to the five key topics below, take note if you haven’t already made adjustments to the products you’re using and the way you apply them.
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1. Foundation
If you haven’t used primer before, now is a good time to start. The experts we spoke with hailed it as a lifesaver. “A common problem with foundation is that it disappears within a couple of hours when applied to older, thirstier skin,” saidTricia Cusden, 75, the founder of Look Fabulous Forever. “Eye shadows may crease on crepey eyelids, and lipstick may feather into the lines around the mouth. The solution to all these frustrations is to use primers to help makeup stay put.”
It’s important to reevaluate colors and shades from time to time, too. “The shade you choose should match your neck, not your face,” Poole said. “Test a swatch on your chin and compare. If you feel washed out at first, don’t resort to a darker foundation, but try some bronzer instead.”
Makeup artist Sandy Linter, 76, said that if you’ve gotten used to using powder, you may want to try a reformulation. “I tell my clients they can get a glowier look with a combination of moisturizer, primer and foundation,” she said. If you’ve had bad experiences with foundation before, Linter suggested you reconsider: “Foundations are nothing to be afraid of now, even though they had a bad reputation in the past for being too mask-like. Now there are foundations that improve your skin quality and looks.”
2.Eyebrows
Hair can get thinner and sparser as we age, which can affect the look of eyebrows ― and that has a big impact on overall appearance. “Brows add balance to the whole face and definition to the eye area, so they’re important,” Cusden said. The color you’re using to enhance them makes a big difference, she added, warning against using the same old eyebrow pencil you’ve always used. “Enhancing brows to match one’s original hair color may look a bit heavy,” she said. “If your hair has gone from brown to gray or blonde, then a soft taupe color for brows can look good.”
It’s also a good idea to pay attention to what’s happening with each brow. “They don’t tend to age evenly,” Poole noted. “I recommend using brow pomade or mascara, while noticing if you need more on one brow than another. And remember that the end of your brow should be straight across, not dropping down, which can make eyes seem more hooded.”
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3. Eyeliner
Yes, you still can use eyeliner. No, it shouldn’t be black. “Our eyes lose definition and seem smaller as we age, so you definitely need eyeliner,” Poole said. “But it shouldn’t look harsh. Instead of black, opt for charcoal gray or deep navy. Fair skin might do well with muted brown or soft olive. Deeper skin tones look great with navy or deep plum colors.”
Still wondering how to do eyeliner like a pro? Here’s Poole’s tip: “Apply the liner along the base of the top lashes, but stop just before you reach the end of the eye. This helps open the eyes and stops the eye from looking downturned.”
4. Concealer
If you’ve been putting concealer on first, it’s time to switch things up and “apply it on top of your foundation or tinted moisturizer,” Poole said. In the past, she explained, concealers tended to be thick and heavy, but they’re now more lightweight. Because of that, you don’t want to displace them when you apply foundation, which is why they go on after.
“And if you’re dry under the eyes, I love using a daytime eye cream, followed by concealer and then foundation,” she said.
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5. Blush
Even if you didn’t wear blush when you were younger, you may find it helpful now as your skin tone changes. “I feel that blusher is essential on an older face to restore a lovely healthy glow which lights up the whole face,” Cusden said.
Where should it go? The experts suggested a more thoughtful approach than a quick swipe somewhere between your nose and your eyes. “If you place it too high on the cheekbones, you’ll draw attention to under your eyes and even your jowls,” Poole said. Her suggestion? “Apply it right on the cheekbone, not any higher.”
This might be a good time to toss out your old powdered blush and switch to something dewier. “I prefer a cream-to-powder blush formulation so that you can position the blusher easily as a cream, but then move it with a brush like a powder,” Cusden said.
While Poole prefers applying blush right on the cheekbone, Cusden suggested a more “shaped” approach: “I aim to create a tear-drop shape, but at an angle with the round part on the cheeks and the thinnest point at the hairline, just level with your eyes.” To accomplish this, she suggested starting from the center of the eye and moving down until you can feel the lower part of your cheekbone. “Start to apply the blush there and then, using a brush, blend and sweep the color up towards your hairline,” she advised.
Beauty Is Ageless
Finally, whatever you do, be kind to yourself. “I don’t accept the attitude that aging is some sort of failure of will,” Cusden said. “Everyone gets old, but age is no barrier to fabulousness. Nor does it mean we can’t apply some beautiful products to enhance our looks. I love my older face, because it has all the hallmarks of a good life, well lived.”
Each decade of life is marked by distinct challenges, moments of joy and new adventures. As we evolve and grow, the differences between those decades start to feel totally stark.
That’s how the funny folks on Twitter make it seem, anyway. Below, we’ve rounded up 25 relatable tweets that sum up the difference between your 20s, 30s and 40s (with a few nods to the teen years as well) ― from personal goals and hobbies to what socializing looks like.
It’s a fortunate thing to be able to watch loved ones age into their senior years, but that privilege can also bring concerns about their ability to live alone safely and maintain a level of independence they may understandably desire.
Susan DeMarois, director of the California Department of Aging, said that most older adults want to age in place. She said the benefits include a continued sense of independence, living in a familiar space in which a person is comfortable and maintaining community connections.
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Everyone deserves to live with dignity and access the highest quality of life that they are capable of and wish to have, said Richard J. Mollot, executive director for New York’s non-profit Long Term Care Community Coalition.
“This doesn’t change with age,” he said via email. “However, the parameters within which these rights can be safely exercised might change, depending on the individual’s needs and wishes.”
According to both DeMarois and Mollot, such parameters might include home modifications that can make a space safer and accommodating for concerns like limited mobility.
“There may also be a need for help with transportation, meals, cleaning or home maintenance and personal care,” DeMarois said, adding that utilizing local senior services can be one of the most holistic ways of accessing resourses, education and support.
“The best advice I can offer to loved ones who want to support an older adult who is living alone is to keep the lines of communication open,” DeMarois said. “Have regular conversations about how the situation is working, if changes need to be made, and what else the older adult needs to feel comfortable and secure at home.”
While these senior care experts did not endorse any specific products, we utilized the resources they provided to build a list of items that might be helpful for any older person to have at home. Keep reading to find ADA-compliant grab rails, highly rated caretaker alert systems and tablets meant to keep your loved one connected.
Please be aware that many of the below items might require professional installation. HuffPost may receive a share from purchases made via links on this page. Every item is independently selected by the HuffPost Shopping team. Prices and availability are subject to change. The experts we consulted for this story do not necessarily endorse the products ahead unless otherwise noted.
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An Amazon tablet pre-installed with entertainment apps
A tablet or smartphone can be useful for a senior living alone as it could help them order food, supplies and services; connect with family and friends; access entertainment and more, said Richard J. Mollot of the Long Term Care Community Coalition.
We think Amazon’s HD Fire tablet can be a good pick, considering it comes pre-installed with easy-to-access entertainment apps includin- Netflix, Amazon and Kindle. It can also be voice controlled using Alexa to make calls to loved ones or control smart home devices without much mobility on the user’s part.
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A tablet specifically designed for seniors
This other tablet option is designed specifically with older populations in mind. The GrandPad features a user-friendly operation screen, ongoing instructions, easy-to-see icons and 24/7 customer support. Share photos, take calls, send emails, video chat and more without causing frustration.
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A bathroom transfer bench
According to the California Department of Aging’s fall prevention program, a transfer bench is useful for some older adults to enter and exit the bathtub safely. We chose this highly rated option in particular because of its positive reviews, tool-free assembly and secure construction that can hold up to 400 pounds. The chair is easily adjusted up to 22.5 inches in order to fit most standard size bathtubs, and has extra-large non-slip feet as well as a non-slip surface.
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An ADA-compliant grab bar for the shower
Susan DeMarois of the California Department of Aging said that installing grab bars for the shower or in other frequently used areas might be helpful. We landed on this grab bar option not just for its near-perfect five-star-rating, but also because it’s compliant with the Americans with Disabilities Act. Available in three sizes and five finish options, including an extra grip coating, this bar can easily be installed on a variety of surfaces and is capable of supporting up to 500 pounds.
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A floor-to-ceiling support pole
Another option for adding support throughout the home is this tension-mounted pole. It earned a spot on this list for its double-handled grab bar that swivels 360 degrees and its floor-to-ceiling design that helps to provide support whether someone is sitting or standing. Because this sturdy bar uses tension to stay in place, no drilling or permanent installation is required.
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A weekly meal delivery service
DaMarois said the CDA’s food and nutrition program delivers well-balanced pre-made meals to older adults in their home. If your state doesn’t offer something similar, Factor is a meal delivery service that offers comforting dietician-created classics like garlic pork tenderloin and herb-crusted chicken. You can choose up to 18 meals a week and explore up to 35 different meal options that arrive ready to heat and enjoy.
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A portable support rail for beds
Inspired by the success stories of individuals from the CDA’s at-home fall prevention program, we picked this assistive, adjustable bed rail that easily slips underneath most mattresses and has a larger load-bearing framework than other bed rails that we found. It has a sturdy and resistive construction that can be trusted.
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A portable multi-fold ramp
According to DeMarois, ramps installed over areas such as outside steps can be a helpful home modification for older adults to age safely in place. They can make access easier for people using wheelchairs or scooters or with limited mobility.
We chose this multi-fold ramp because it seemed to be one of the most portable and easy-to-install options. It’s built with an edge-to-edge traction tape surface, has a sturdy welded design and folds up like a suitcase for easy transport.
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A fall-detection pendant system
Our pick: This alert system comes backed with ADT’s 24/7 monitoring service that can get a loved one immediately connected to critical care to ensure a rapid response in the event of an emergency — all with a press of a button. The portable mobile device allows for two-way communication with ADT’s sensitivity-trained agents as well as GPS location tracking while the wearable and waterproof pendant has automatic fall detection capabilities for added peace of mind. This system does require a monthly service fee, starting at $39.99.